Just bring back meritocracy

Interact with cats instead.

Give some stray pals some food and shelter.

Totally relatable. I've literally told people to just go home and I'd vouch for them if they wanna lie about their hours, just so I could get the work done without seeing them stand around doing nothing but scrolling IG and vaping.

start investing any residual income you have into stocks and get out the rat race when you can

Feel better? I'm presuming you've had a bad day at work, so many love hearts :o

I wouldn't put up with that, I tell them, had a guy in tears as he knew I was right. The other people left I presume and were replaced?

Typo.

Originally posted by ~Ren~:

Feel better? I'm presuming you've had a bad day at work, so many love hearts :o

I wouldn't put up with that, I tell them, had a guy in tears as he knew I was right. The other people left I presume and were replaced?

Typo.

I try to hold my tongue because I don't want there to be tension or bad vibes between me and my colleagues but if I don't say anything, they're just going to get worse and worse I feel like.

I wish I didn't care about my work ethic so much, maybe then I wouldn't be effected by other peoples either. The thing that angers me the most is they never admit or accept they're working slowly / badly because they can't be bothered or whatever. There's ALWAYS some excuse or reason to justify why I have to pick up their slack.

Originally posted by Alxndr:

Originally posted by ~Ren~:

Feel better? I'm presuming you've had a bad day at work, so many love hearts :o

I wouldn't put up with that, I tell them, had a guy in tears as he knew I was right. The other people left I presume and were replaced?

Typo.

I try to hold my tongue because I don't want there to be tension or bad vibes between me and my colleagues but if I don't say nothing, they're just going to get worse and worse I feel like.

I wish I didn't care about my work ethic so much, maybe then I wouldn't be effected by other peoples either. The thing that angers me the most is they never admit or accept they're working slowly / badly because they can't be bothered or whatever. There's ALWAYS some excuse or reason to justify why I have to pick up their slack.

It's obviously stressing you out, why put up with that feeling? You feel strong about it judging by your post here. Personally, I clear the air, then we know where we stand. The guy I was referring to was bone idle and doing next to nothing, I put up with it for a while in case he was ill or just having a bad day, it continued, so I spoke to him. I did feel a bit guilty afterwards when he burst in to tears, but things improved for a while then he quit, good riddance, unfortunately, I felt no sympathy for him as he was just lazy.

Originally posted by Wraithe:

Originally posted by Wild Child:

Totally relatable. I've literally told people to just go home and I'd vouch for them if they wanna lie about their hours, just so I could get the work done without seeing them stand around doing nothing but scrolling IG and vaping.

I rather quit my job than to carry people on my back.

Ordinarily I never would, but it's very rare in my line of work to find a job where one person can do everything and not die. That's a job worth keeping.

You happy

Originally posted by Wild Child:

Originally posted by Wraithe:

I rather quit my job than to carry people on my back.

I never would, .

they wouldnt either

there, there...

at least there's video games to relax a bit

Originally posted by Heitor Villa-Lobos:

Interact with cats instead.

Give some stray pals some food and shelter.

become cat woman 🥰

Originally posted by Alxndr:

I've just had enough of the lies, the ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥, the excuses it makes me so angry. I just want people to be honest. If you didn't do something because you couldn't be bothered, just say you couldn't be bothered that's why you didn't do it.

It is an annoyance baked into the "English language culture".
It is indirect
and it uses high context.

Communication in English is mainly about avoiding pain and pleasing, rather than communicating useful information, despite the words it uses having more direct meanings.

"Would you like some cream?" (instead of "milk")
"I'm perfect." (Instead of "No") (can be followed up with "thanks" or "thank you" which adds 'care', and politeness to it; but it's not obligated.)

"How are you!" (instead of "Good to see you.")

The language use, the culture, it in itself lies.
and this gets worse when a negative message needs to be delivered, such as critique.
Sometimes so much so that people even those born in the UK miss the point.

"Sorry, I don't feel like doing that at the moment. Maybe some other day."
It's very difficult to say something like that, so instead, they say "Sounds like fun, sure..."
and they then make you wait at the agreed upon location, at the agreed upon time
unless you happen to notice the tone in their voice, which they tried to hide.

>..>;
Try visiting the netherlands or germany. You'll notice it is really the culture.

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Originally posted by Alxndr:

I'm sick of working with people who don't give a ♥♥♥♥ about their job so I have to pick up the slack and fix the stuff they didn't bother to fix. I have to pretend to them that they're just as hard a worker as me otherwise I'm a terrible person accusing them of being slow / bad even though they know they are, and they know that I know they are...

Just saying, but honesty is considered polite and caring in the Netherlands. People here actually appreciate harsh feedback and critique. It's probably why they have that saying about a dutch parent in the UK, where it is seen as hostile.

It depends on how you perceive it. We see it as someone who cares about the job, about us, and wants everyone to just be a team. We realize that they have been carefully examining us as well, and that we made them uncomfortable, so-... yeah- you wouldn't get attacked for it at all.

Only very selfcentered types would start to mock or say "calm down" or something, which is a couple of people per group of 10, but most ... they take it with a smile I guess?
It migh take some getting used to for people who think a smile must be some kind of mockery. It's not.

Point is, from my pov you're not a terrible person if you were to complain a bit out loud.

There's probably more to the story, but that's okay, it is what it is.

So anyway I'd understand that feeling. The constant battle against incompetence and the burden of carrying others.

But honestly, if you're supposingly carrying the team and it's wrecking you, just ditch it. Seriously. No point in being miserable.

Why do you care what your ♥♥♥♥ coworkers say if they're ♥♥♥♥? Sure, you need to keep up appearances enough to not get fired, but there's a lot of wiggle room there to call them out and refuse to back down